How can Catelynn and Tyler Baltierra contact their daughter Carly who was adopted?

The Email System

Tyler Baltierra revealed on the April 27 episode of the Cake For Dinner podcast that he and Catelynn set up a dedicated email account as their only means of maintaining communication with Carly. They send her messages when they're thinking about her and share photos of their younger children. The couple created this system after Brandon Davis and Teresa Davis, Carly's adoptive parents, closed the adoption in 2023, cutting off other direct contact channels.

Future Access Plan

Tyler explained their strategy for giving Carly control over the relationship. They plan to eventually provide her with the login credentials and password to the email account, allowing her to review the messages and photos they've sent whenever she chooses. This approach respects her autonomy as she gets older and can decide for herself how involved she wants to be with her biological parents.

Acceptance of Uncertainty

Tyler acknowledged that the relationship's future depends entirely on Carly's choices. He and Catelynn have accepted that she may not want contact with them as she gets older, particularly given their extensive presence on reality television. Tyler stated his role as her birth parent is to be available to answer questions she may have about being adopted, respecting what he believes she is owed in that regard.

Ensuring She's Not Forgotten

Despite the closed adoption and limited contact, Tyler emphasized that they make sure Carly is 'not forgotten about.' The couple continues to document their thoughts and share updates about Carly's younger siblings through the email system, maintaining a record of connection even during periods when direct contact isn't possible.